Monday, March 30, 2009

Song #10: "This Is Where I Begin"

My latest song is about boundaries. Intended for a female singer. Here is the tune (.mp3), the sheet music (.pdf) and me singing the song, poorly (.wav). The full lyrics are below (not too meaningful without the music). Both the tune and the words are my own original work. I've gone as far as I can with this song. Now it's your turn! Midi file available upon request.

This Is Where I Begin

It seemed so simple then.
We would be more than friends.
Melting together, give what you can,
Take what you need.
We couldn't see the toll,
The loss of self-control.
As bad as losing you was the losing me.

Because this is where I begin.
This is where you must end.
No you can't come over this side
Even if you are my friend.
This is my hiding place.
You'll have to find your own.
Because even if I love you
We must face the world alone.

We crave consistency,
Lifelong security.
It's not a path you take without cost.
See what we lost.
Love unconditional
Can be dysfunctional.
Our contract clearly states I must rescue you
From anything you do.
You never have to truly stand up on your own.

This is where I begin.
This is where you must end.
No you can't come over this side
Even if you are my friend.
This is my own reward.
You'll have to earn your own.
Because even if I love you
We must face the world alone.

Don't walk away.
Let's find a way.
Let's compromise, negotiate but for today.
Can't make no plans.
Please understand.
You can't take all of me.
You only take my hand.

This is where I begin.
This is where you must end.
No you can't come over this side
Even if you are my friend.
This is my Paradise.
You'll have to build your own.
Because even if I love you
We must face the world alone.

Lyrics and tune copyright © 2009, Glenn Campbell, PO Box 30303, Las Vegas, NV 89173.
Released from Deming, New Mexico.
You can see all my songs here. All my songs and screen stories are indexed at LoveStrangely.com

Wednesday, March 25, 2009

Permission to Photograph

This lady in Dublin said, "Take our picture!" so I did.

One of my Facebook friends writes: "Hey Glenn, I was wondering if anybody got upset about you taking pictures of them without their consent... Have you ever been in a situation like that before? If so, what happened?"

This is a complex and interesting question: Do I have a right to photograph people without their permission, and how far am I willing to go?"

(My photo albums are found at RoamingPhotos.com.)

I have basically two kinds of human subjects: (1) people deliberately making a spectacle of themselves—say, by dressing in costumes and participating in a public celebration; and (2) people going about their daily business in the place where I happen to be photographing.

A good example of the first case is a renaissance fair, where people dress up in outlandish medieval customs intending to be noticed. That, to me, implies a permission to photograph them. I am careful not to make people uncomfortable, but I have no discomfort about shooting.

The second case is more complicated. If I photograph, say, a street vendor without his permission, am I violating his privacy? In the U.S., at least, there aren't any specific laws against it. It is well-established, for example, that celebrities can be photographed whenever they appear in public, and they don't have to be paid royalties for it, which is the legal principle supporting the paparazzi. The same general idea applies to anyone appearing in public. Legally, I never fear that I will be arrested for what I do.

The more important issue, however, is making people uncomfortable, and I do my best to avoid it. The fact is, the vast majority of the people in my photos don't even know there are being photographed. It happens so quickly (in a fraction of a second), that they are only dimly aware of it at most, so there's no opportunity for them to become uncomfortable. Usually, I appear to be photographing something else, like the Grand Canyon, and the people in the foreground aren't aware that they are my main subject.

A lot of the apparent intimacy of my photos happens in post-production. My original photo shows a much wider scene, but I crop it down to the small part of the scene that is most interesting. When it appears in the photo that I am close to a person and interacting with them, I am usually very far away and just happened to catch them when they are looking in my direction. They may see a guy with a camera, but they probably don't know he is looking at them.

I don't feel uncomfortable about "stealing" photos like this, because the chance of the subject or anyone he knows ever seeing the photo is very slim. And I never portray people in an unflattering light, anyway, so it shouldn't be something that would upset them if they saw it. If anyone did see themselves on one of my websites and asked me to remove them, I probably would, but so far no one has asked.

Occasionally, though, I may actually engage with my subject. This may happen, for example, when a bunch of kids (or drunk adults) see that I have a camera and they start hamming for it. If you start performing for my camera, this implies a permission to photograph, and I will take advantage of it.

Generally, I only photograph people under circumstances where photography is normal, like at tourist attractions or public events. This gives me the "cover" I need to focus on what really interests me: the people. I don't photograph in circumstances where I would be drawing attention to myself by doing so. The essence of candid photography is that the subject be at ease, so I don't want them distracted by my presence.

In practice, it is virtually impossible to get "permission" to photograph. Once I ask, "May I photograph you?" people become self-conscious, and it destroys the spontaneity of the moment. It also starts raising questions, like "What are you going to do with these photos?" which requires a long, complicated negotiation. I couldn't take a lot of pictures in an amusement park if I tried to ask permission from each person who appears in my viewfinder. Instead, I just shoot and move on. Usually, it happens in a split second, and I have completely left the area five seconds later.

I do obey some general rules:

(1) I don't photograph people in undignified positions. I try to draw a line between "capturing" people and "exploiting" them.

(2) I don't photograph people where there is a "reasonable expectation of privacy."

The last concept is a vague one, but I generally don't photograph people in busses or subways or engaged in activities that are generally closed to the public. I wouldn't photograph people at a funeral or at private events I haven't been invited to. A general rule of thumb is that if a regular tourist wouldn't be photographing the scene, I won't either, but if a lot of other cameras are present I will feel free to snap away. This is why the majority of my venues end up being tourist attractions.

Occasionally, people will ask me not to photograph them, but usually these are very paranoid characters who are hyper-vigilant for any perceived threat in their environment. Usually, I don't give them the chance complain. If I dwell too long in one area or point my camera in one direction for an extended time, I might get a complaint, in which case I promptly leave the area or put the camera away.

In my photography career, only handful of people have asked me not to photograph them. These incidents stick out in my mind, and I have adjusted my methods so I don't trigger this kind of response. I may walk down the street going snap-snap-snap, but by the time a paranoid has a chance to react, I'm already long gone.

I feel that the benefits outweigh the concerns. I usually believe that something important is being captured that would slip away otherwise.

Saturday, March 21, 2009

Kilroy Café #34: "Compromises: In a crisis, are you willing to make them?"

Here is the latest Kilroy philosophy essay. You can click on the image above for a larger version or print it out on a single page via the pdf file. The full text is also below. Also see my other Kilroy Café newsletters.

COMPROMISES
In a crisis, are you willing to make them?

By GLENN CAMPBELL

One of the hidden advantages of an economic crisis or any other kind of disaster is that it forces us to focus on what's really important. To survive, we will probably have to purge the things we never really needed in favor of the core things we do need. In the end, if we play our cards right, we could end up healthier and more fulfilled than if the crisis never happened.

The requirements of life are pretty simple: We need food, health and a reasonable measure of physical safety. Philosophically, we also need a meaningful personal mission and some control over our own destiny. If we have these things, everything else is negotiable. We may think we need other "essentials," but when forced to go without them, we will usually find a way.

The seeds of almost every crisis lie in the prosperity that came before. The tragedy of good times is that they encourage us to take on more crap than we can ultimately support: more possessions, more debt, more obligations and more arbitrary expectations about what the proper life should be. After a period of good fortune, people are burdened by so much excess baggage, both physical and psychological, they can hardly move.

A crisis tends to strip all of that away. We are forced to make hard choices about the things we need and don't need, and after a painful transition, we may end up with a life that is leaner, more direct and ultimately more satisfying than the one we had before.

Some people are broken by crisis. Their spirit never recovers. Others are ultimately strengthened by it and come out the other side much more productive than they were before. What is the difference between the two? It's a matter of attitude.

Those who prosper approach the crisis as an opportunity. They say, "I didn't ask for this, but now that it is happening, I'm going to take advantage of it." You can't keep these people down, because every bad thing you throw at them gets turned to their benefit.

There can be great freedom in control being taken out of our hands, which is what a crisis usually does. For example, few of us would want to lose our job, have our home foreclosed on or have to file for bankruptcy, but if these things are forced upon us, we might be better off in the long term, getting closer to the simple things that are most important. Without a crisis, we might never have passed the threshold of pain necessary to make these changes.

A crisis often allows us to make dramatic course corrections that would be unthinkable in good times. Instead of a dull, straight-line path through life, you may end up with a much more interesting and purposeful journey—if you take advantage of the opportunity.

A crisis can be thought of a wormhole through space. Instead of travelling 20 light years by slow space ship to reach your destination, you could jump through a wormhole and get there much faster.

The only disadvantage of wormholes is the devastation they wreck when they appear in your universe. Everything you cared about and thought was important may be sucked away. There is nothing pleasant about it, and there may be times when no solution seems possible.

Just like the unrealistic euphoria of good times, the worry of bad times is rarely as bad as it first seems. Once a few things go bad, we start planning for the worst-case scenario where everything goes bad. Paranoia starts ruling our actions, which often makes things even worse.

But along with the calamities, unexpected opportunities are also bound to appear, and when they do, you have to be ready to jump into them. The key preparation is to purge all those things you don't need. Do you really need this obligation, that possession? People have always told you those things are necessary but are they really? If you are truly creative, you can often find a better work-around.

The greatest benefit of a crisis is the purging it encourages. It gives you a chance to get back to basics, to what's really important. If you're smart, you'll take the hint and get rid of everything not of immediate practical value. Instead of travelling with eighteen steamer trunks, you should be passing through life with one carry-on.

The real privilege is to be passing through life at all, not what you are carrying with you.

—G .C.


©2009, Glenn Campbell, PO Box 30303, Las Vegas, NV 89173. See my other philosophy newsletters at www.KilroyCafe.com.
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Thursday, March 12, 2009

Kilroy Café #33: "Dorothy and the Ruby Slippers"

Here is the latest Kilroy philosophy essay. You can click on the image above for a larger version or print it out on a single page via the pdf file. The full text is also below. Also see my other Kilroy Café newsletters.


Dorothy and the Ruby Slippers
The Yellow Brick Road is not the path to creativity

By GLENN CAMPBELL

Probably the greatest movie of all time, at least for its metaphorical value, is Wizard of Oz. Here you have a girl engaged in a long journey to achieve her "heart's desire." She thinks the best way to get there is an appeal to the Mighty Oz, but it turns out she never really needed him. The power to fulfill her own dreams was hers all along!

That's a mistake all of us make in the beginning. When we want something, we think we need some outside force to give it to us, so we engage in some sort of complicated multi-year process to pander to that force. Years later, we may discover that the "man behind the curtain" was a fraud. All we ever needed, it turns out, was the self-confidence to do it ourselves.

Tell me: Why haven't you written that song, novel or screenplay you always dreamed of? You may think it's because you don't have an agent or contract, or because you haven't taken the right classes, or because you don't have anyone to believe in you.

Rubbish! The responsibility for any creative achievement lies wholly within you. If you fancy yourself a musician, then you should be making music—not just performing music, but creating it. If you are a writer, then you should be writing. There is no other way.

Dorothy could have gone back to Kansas anytime she wanted. The power was in her ruby slippers all along, but frankly she didn't even need the shoes. That's just another magical belief, another substitute for responsibility.

If there's something you want to do, that's important you, YOU JUST BLOODY DO IT! No matter what prison you may be trapped in, you will find a way if you choose to. No Oz can give it to you.

Budding artists tend to get caught up in marketing and the myth of "discovery." Instead of actually producing a great product, they become fixated on convincing others of their talent. This inevitably turns into some form of prostitution where you are pandering to the selfish needs of some outside agent or sponsor (or the fickle public) who is a failure at the art themselves.

All of this energy should be focused on the art itself, on the quality of the product. Appealing to power might get you ahead in the short term, but in the greater arc of history, only quality lasts.

Nowadays, you don't need a publishing or recording contract to create a work that lasts forever. The internet now gives you that, practically for free. Your product may not be noticed, but at least it won't be lost in the attic, and it will be noticed eventually if the quality is really there.

Why were the Beatles a success? Why are we still listening to them today? It wasn't because they had recording contracts or good agents. It was because they produced really great songs—even before the contracts or agents. They had a singular focus on quality long before their "discovery." In fact, you could say it was the discovery, agents and contracts that destroyed them. How can any artist remain productive when assaulted by so much success?

Of all the people who dream of doing creative things, only a tiny portion actually do them. That's because everyone else gets sidelined by some irrelevant journey. They get sucked down some mindless Yellow Brick Road that ends up diverting them from their goals and taking up most of their lives. They take this journey thinking Oz will give them something that can really only come from within.

Why do they fall for it? It's the blank page problem: People stare at the empty canvas in front of them and panic. "I don't know what to do!" They sit down to write the great novel but can't think of anything to say. That's when they start looking for external solutions—for saviors and magical fixes.

The blank page isn't so frightening if you step back and look beyond it. All around you are tools and opportunities, and you have to listen to them. You can make art out of anything, but you have to resolve to work with what you've got and go where it leads you, not demand a certain end product.

If you become obsessed with writing a bestselling novel, you probably won't, but if you decide to be creative with whatever tools you have today, you are far more likely to produce a quality product. That process, if you are flexible enough to follow it, may lead to an Emerald City you never expected.

If you are going to create, you can't put it off. You have to do it now.

—G .C.



For your convenience, here is the complete screenplay for Wizard of Oz


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Thursday, March 5, 2009

Kilroy Café #32: "Fight the Evil of the Capitalist Commercial Agenda"

Here is the latest Kilroy philosophy essay. You can click on the image above for a larger version or print it out on a single page via the pdf file. The full text is also below. Also see my other Kilroy Café newsletters.


FIGHT THE EVIL
of the Capitalist Commercial Agenda

By GLENN CAMPBELL

Capitalism has given us many useful tools. Thanks to trade, you don't have to grow or hunt your own food; you just go to the store and buy it. Thanks in part to commercial medicine, you now have a reasonable chance of living beyond the age of 40. Many products offered by Capitalism, like computers and washing machines, can be worth far more than their purchase price if they relieve you of routine tasks and let you spend more time on important things.

All of this technology is driven by profit. Entrepreneurs know that if they provide something people need, they will make money and gain greater freedom for themselves. For example, a farmer can grow food more efficiently than the blacksmith. The blacksmith pays the farmer for food so he, in turn, can focus on what he does best. Both parties benefit from their commercial exchange and don't have to work so hard to survive.

Capitalism becomes less benign, however, as soon as the needs of survival have been met. Merchants will still seek profit, but how can they make any when the customer is already satisfied?

Answer: They make the customer dissatisfied.

Once all reasonable human needs have been met, the role of Capitalism is to generate artificial needs where none had previously existed. These new needs, in turn, are used to sell ever more ridiculous and burdensome products.

That's the purpose of advertizing: to create those artificial needs. Once upon a time, advertizing was simply used to connect the buyer who wanted something with the seller who had it. Now, its main purpose is to tell the buyer he needs something when he never would have thought of it otherwise.

In the modern world, the overwhelming role of Capitalism is to sell people things they don't need, thereby keeping the people enslaved to the system rather than freeing them.

If all you need is simple food and basic shelter, you can become satisfied relatively quickly, but the wheels of marketing assure that the simple and basic are never enough. There will always be ever finer distinctions of "need" to attend to—more exotic food, more expensive fashion, etc.—until all your resources are used up and you never feel satisfied no matter how much you have.

The incentive for deception is huge. There is little profit in supplying basic needs, because this is a commodity business where competition holds prices down, but there can be big profit in selling people things they don't need. When a marketer invents the need himself, he can engineer it so only his product fulfills that imaginary need.

The bulk of advertizing is focused on products with "tm" at the end of their names. Pepsi™ and Coke™ are each focused on creating an addictive need for their supposedly unique product. By buying the product, the marketing tells you, you are buying into a certain illusory lifestyle only they can supply.

Of course, what they are really selling you is sugar water and caffeine, things for which your body has no genuine need. Like 99% of the marketed products out there, the need is totally or mostly artificial and has no real benefit to the healthy functioning of your life.

It is easy to say you're not swayed by advertizing, but advertizing is rapidly becoming the only culture we have left on this planet. It's impossible to avoid. Even most "entertainment" is a commercial product design to generate and reinforce an artificial need.

We all have real needs, but we have to listen to our own bodies and circumstances to find out what they are and how best to address them. We shouldn't take advice from people who have an obvious agenda in selling us something.

Even when it accurately identifies a need, Capitalism usually wants to sell you a $200 solution when a $2 one might work even better. Because commerce has so thoroughly usurped our culture, you're probably never going to hear about the $2 solution because there's no news channel for it.

The commercial agenda poisons everything it touches and will destroy your life if you give it a chance. You can't make it go away, but you can turn it off. You don't just have a choice of Coke vs. Pepsi. The real exercise of your freedom is seeing that you need neither.

—G .C.



ALSO SEE an earlier philosophy essay: Capitalism Sucks (Family Court Philosopher #35, 11/28/06)


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Photos Are No Longer Posted Here

My new photo albums will no longer be posted to this blog, since they are adequately published on other blogs.

The definitive list of all my photo albums is found at RoamingPhotos.com. This archive may be delayed, however, and it may take weeks or months before new albums appear there. (Albums are added here only when they are complete.)

My latest photos will always be posted to my Facebook page first. (You must "friend" me to see this page.) When an album is first begun it will also be posted to my abbreviated Facebook Fan page. (Any Facebook member can view it or become a fan.)

My Facebook page is mirrored on my public Archive of my Facebook Wall, which may be delayed by a few days after posting to the Facebook page.

Given all these sources for the photos, also adding them to Kilroy Cafe seemed unnecessary. Kilroy Cafe is now mainly for my philosophical and creative writings. (Traditionally, new ideas start on Kilroy Cafe then are moved to other blogs or websites as they mature.)

Sunday, March 1, 2009

Kilroy Café #31: "The Destructive Power of Puppies"

Here is the latest Kilroy philosophy essay. You can click on the image above for a larger version or print it out on a single page via the pdf file. The full text is also below. Also see my other Kilroy Café newsletters.


The Destructive Power of Puppies

By GLENN CAMPBELL

One of the fundamental challenges of life is learning how to resist temptation now in favor of a better outcome in the future. Most people simply can't do it, especially if the temptation is something emotional and close at hand.

Take, for example, the puppy. Look how adorable, helpless and funny he is. Can't we take him home? Pleeease?

Faced with those big, innocent, heartbreaking eyes (of both the puppy and the person begging for one), most of us can't resist. It's just one little puppy. What harm can he do?

But what happens then? That's right, puppies grow up! They can turn into big, hungry, undisciplined bruisers who take over your life for years, sometimes long after the person who begged for them has moved away. Grown up puppies can cost thousands of dollars over their lifetime and cause you daily inconvenience worth far more.

Metaphorically, a "puppy" is anything that appeals to your emotions in the present but that isn't best for you in the long run. All of us are struggling with puppies—doing what feels good vs. what we know is right—and all of us fall for them sometimes.

Drugs are a puppy, in that they make you feel good now (or at least stop the bad feelings) but aren't good for you over time. Rich food is a puppy if you know you're overweight. A puppy can be something you buy for yourself that you know you don't need or "help" you give someone when they should be helping themselves.

A puppy can also be a painful but necessary decision that you have been avoiding, like firing an employee who is trying his best but not meeting the requirements of the job. It's a puppy when you avoid causing someone immediate discomfort at the expense of both their long term health and yours.

Puppies abound in the home and in intimate relationships. Even the most ruthless judge or businessman, capable of hard and calculated decisions on the job, may turn into a creampuff when he gets back to the wife and kids. Once you drop your defenses with someone and become responsive to their emotions, it can become incredibly difficult to say "No." Puppies sneak in wherever the will gets weak, and soon you have a house full of dysfunction.

The "puppy problem" is a common disorder of the underclass in any society: the poor, illiterate and impulsive. It is not just that these people lack resources, but they tend to misuse them when they do have them. Those without much experience in good fortune are likely to squander it on things that feel good right now—luxury goods, entertainment, gifts to friends—while their long-term prospects go down the drain.

The puppy problem is also the official disease of politics. Leaders are elected or defeated on the basis of whatever puppies appeal to the public at the moment. The voters rarely comprehend the long-term consequences of their current hysteria, so they elect leaders who pander to those feelings.

Advertisers are always trying to sell you puppies, for a simple reason: the profit margin on products you don't need is usually much greater than on the basics. There's little reward in selling tap water or basic transportation but huge profit on sugared soft drinks and luxury cars. The job of advertising is to manufacture puppies: things your emotions say you can't live without even as you mortgage your soul to pay for them.

The puppy problem turns up in countless guises and never goes away. If you don't face the problem today, you will in the near future.

You have already had plenty of life experience concerning what happens when you fall prey to puppies. They can lead to many kinds of prison and rob years from your life, so you can't afford to make too many puppy mistakes.

No one wants to be a puppy killer. Part of the burden of refusing the sentiments of the moment is that people are going to hate you for it. The risk, however, is that you take in too many puppies and your whole system collapses, leaving you unable to care for any of them.

Come on, just one little puppy? Look at those sweet little eyes!

Okay, well maybe just one.

You're going to fall for it sooner or later, so you have to be crafty. You can give in on the little puppy proposals, like borrowing one for the weekend, but you have to hold the line on the big ones.

The puppy before you can't just be seen in three dimensions but in four, including time. What will this puppy become over months and years?

If you clearly see the fourth dimension and understand that your best control of it happens now, you might be better equipped to face the puppy temptation.

—G .C.

©2009, Glenn Campbell, PO Box 30303, Las Vegas, NV 89173. See my other philosophy newsletters at www.KilroyCafe.com.
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Saturday, February 28, 2009

Kilroy Café #30: "The Setup"

Here is the latest Kilroy philosophy essay. You can print it out on a single page via the pdf file, or you can read the full text below. Also see my other Kilroy Café newsletters.


The Setup
Every life is based on lies. What are yours?

By GLENN CAMPBELL

No matter how rational you think you are, the structure of your life is based on flawed assumptions that, if you live long enough, are going to proven false.

Here's an example: "Real estate always appreciates in value, never depreciates." How many homeowners have been suckered by that assumption and are now paying the price? For decades, if not generations, this was the mantra of new home buyers, luring them into commitments they couldn't afford and didn't really need. In reality, there was no economic science behind the belief, only blind faith.

But that's just the tip of the iceberg. Virtually everything you are doing right now is based on one or more lies. I can't tell you exactly what your lies are, but they are essentially religious beliefs taken without proof and reinforced by your past investments. Probably, you already know what they are deep inside but can't afford to speak of them openly. You can't bear to see these lies for what they are because you have already devoted so much of yourself to them and would face great pain to let them go.

Is your career based on lies? Your marriage? You whole current lifestyle? Unfortunately, the answer is probably yes. But don't think you are alone. Just about everyone else is in the same boat. The whole world is a big lie factory.

You were born into a set of lies: those of your parents and the world they lived in. Because you had no means to question them, their lies became part of your nervous system. There was Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny but also a thousand more subtle lies that your whole family took as truth.

A simple case: Don't go swimming within a half-hour of eating, I was told, or you will get cramps and drown. Turns out, there was no medical or statistical basis for that one whatsoever, but the kids in my family took it as truth, because that's what we were told by the people we trusted.

It seemed like every week since I first became conscious, I was discovering new falsehoods. Even today, I am learning that things I had been taught or had assumed from the examples around me were in fact pure fiction. That's the fundamental trauma of growing up. No matter how benign your upbringing was, it dished out fairytales to you that reality is eventually going to trash.

It's unavoidable. To introduce you to a complicated world, your parents had to simplify things for you. These simplified theories (or invented fictions) allowed you to learn, but eventually you had to let them go and move on to more complex theories. The letting go is usually painful, but it's part of growing up. Every theory is temporary and will eventually be replaced by another.

The danger comes when you get heavily invested in one theory, like the one about real estate always appreciating. If you have a mortgage and are struggling to make the payments, you can't afford to believe anything else. Your theories are no longer permitted to change, so your growth in this area comes to a halt.

In the normal course of a human life, your invested fictions are going to accumulate and eventually box you in. You may continue to "learn," or gain new facts, but you will no longer "grow," or change your fundamental schema, unless the change is forced upon you.

And reality will provide that service! If you invest too much in a false theory, reality will eventually hand you an appropriate catastrophe, like a crash in the housing market. Then you'll have to change, but it won't be so graceful as when you change on your own.

If you are pummeled by reality enough, you might eventually get wise by realizing how naïve you really are. No matter how old you are or how important you seem to be in the world, you haven't worked things out, are nowhere near working things out, and are a fool if you think you have.

It's okay to pursue a fiction for a while—That's better than having no direction at all.—but don't ever treat the fiction as permanent. If it ever comes down to signing on the dotted line to set your theories in a stone, you better have a gag reflex to protect you.

Maybe it's all fiction. Maybe everything you believe is based on a lie. At least you should leave yourself the freedom to change your lies as conditions warrant.

—G .C.

©2009, Glenn Campbell, PO Box 30303, Las Vegas, NV 89173. See my other philosophy newsletters at www.KilroyCafe.com.
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Sunday, February 15, 2009

Kilroy Café #8: "The Tragedy of Success"

Here is the latest Kilroy philosophy essay. (It is a revised and retitled version of #8, originally published in June 2008.) You can print it out on a single page via the pdf file, or you can read the full text below. Also see my other Kilroy Café newsletters.


The Tragedy of Success

By GLENN CAMPBELL

If you had an enemy who you wanted to hurt, what would be the best way to get even with him? You could sue him in court or humiliate him in the press. You could torture him on the rack or draw him over hot coals.

Or, if you really wanted to destroy his life in a slow and excruciating way, you could arrange to have him win the lottery. A few million dollars will do it. He'll probably never recover.

Never underestimate the destructive power of excessive and unwarranted good fortune. It zaps the life from individuals and societies. It detaches people from their roots and from healthy relations with reality. It promotes sloth and discourages growth. It encourages frivolous investments that drag down people's lives in the long run.

Winning the lottery may seem fun at first, but the penalty comes when the money runs out and you've lost the skills to sustain yourself. Then you may end up far worse off than you were before.

The same thing happens when you feed the pigeons in a city park. They love the free food, but when you feed them regularly, they lose the ability to forage for themselves. Their numbers expand under your largesse, so the environment can no longer support them naturally. When you stop feeding them, as you inevitably must, the pigeons will be in dire straits. It won't just be a little hunger now but mass starvation.

When someone experiences some form of good fortune—be it a job promotion, falling in love, sudden wealth, or winning a beauty contest—you want to congratulate them. It is remarkable, however, how quickly good fortune can morph into bad. Success is a disorienting change that most people can't handle, and it often sets them up for future failure. Something apparently good in the short term may not be best in the whole arc of ones life.

Success tends to freeze people at the developmental level they were at when the blessing occurred. If you suddenly win everything you ever wished for, you have little incentive to move on. If you find fame as a movie star or a football player, you're pretty much trapped in that career. If you hadn't got what you wanted, you might have been forced to evolve, perhaps in a direction that is ultimately more meaningful.

All developmental growth involves some anxiety and risk. It requires that you be hungry enough to leave your comfort zone. By eliminating your hunger and offering safety, success can sometimes trap you in a velvet prison where life is too easy for your own good. There needs to be an edge to fall off, a nearby abyss, before you are really motivated to change.

Yes, you can be too pretty, too rich, too famous and too blessed. As soon as you have these things, you tend to take them for granted. You see them as an entitlement—something you deserve for your personal virtue. Often, however, the success turns out to be a product of dumb luck more than anything, and it can vanish just as easily as it came. Then, you're just another fool, another rags-to-riches-to-rags tragedy.

How many have sung the same song? They knew success, but they flew too high, melted their wings and fell back to Earth. In the end, they would give anything for even a thimble full of what they once had, for the resources they once blew on trifles.

Success doesn't have to be turned away, but you must never take it personally. You are only the custodian of good fortune, not the recipient. It isn't a sin to have money in the bank; the risk comes when you start spending it. Sports cars, vacation homes and other unnecessary luxuries require ongoing maintenance that ultimately sabotages your freedom. With a little shift in the winds, these possessions and commitments can quickly become a prison.

Money, beauty and good fortune also let you buy your way out of tight spots that should have woken you up and forced you to change. You start falling back on dumb, awkward, expensive solutions rather than cheap and elegant ones.

Success is a powerful drug, like cocaine. It feels good at first, but you quickly become addicted. When the drug is then taken away, the results are usually sad. Most of history's greatest tragedies, from the Fall of Rome to the Great Depression can be directly linked to the excesses and euphoria of success.

Like a free buffet, success can be a pleasant experience at first, but for your own health and nutrition, you need to limit what you take from it.

—G .C.

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Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Song #9: "Final Stand"

My latest song recounts the last words of a desperado. Here is the tune (.mp3), the sheet music (.pdf) and me singing the song, poorly (.wav). The full lyrics are below (not too meaningful without the music). Midi file available upon request. Both the tune and the words are my own original work.

Final Stand
I got two shots left in my gun.
It's the end, my last setting sun.
It's just me alone again,
My friend by my side.
I've got no place left now to run.

I know I'm right.
Come hold me now.
I'll stay and fight.
But I don't know how.
I'm not afraid.
Oh, yes I am.
Please take my hand.
My final stand.

We will all become what we choose.
If you want something, pay your dues.
It's just me the fool again,
Back against the wall.
I've got nothing left now to lose.

I know I'm right.
Come hold me now.
I'll stay and fight.
But I don't know how.
I'm not afraid.
Oh, yes I am.
Please take my hand.
My final stand.

I am not alone.
I can go back home,
To my cottage there in the glen.
In reality, it's my fantasy
That we all go home in the end.

I hope my life
Was not in vain.
Enduring Strife,
Now I feel no pain.
See who I am,
No what I've done.
Please lead me on,
My Kingdom come.

Now the law won't take me alive.
I did what I did to survive.
And no chains will hold me down
As long as I breathe.
I've got no choice left but to leave.

I've got one shot left in my gun.
Lyrics and tune copyright © Glenn Campbell, PO Box 30303, Las Vegas, NV 89173.

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